The Man is the Cultivator of the Garden

Adam and Eve

I recently watched an interesting discussion entitled, ‘The Science of Adam and Eve’. The link is here if you’d like to take a listen. It’s a different analysis on the Genesis story that adds a great deal of insight into the relations between men and women.

I like the psychological approach that Dr. Jordan Peterson and Matthieu Pageau take. I was inspired to elaborate on this and include an additional viewpoint I have recently found compelling concerning the woman as beneficial adversary and the ideal helpmate:

“A good woman studies her husband, she doesn’t irritate him, she doesn’t criticize him. What a real woman does is she keeps asking him questions. She tries to find out what his dream is, what his vision is, what his desires are. Her call is to study him and keep asking questions – why? – because you want to get his vision. A woman from the beginning is a helper and you can’t help somebody who you don’t know their assignment. Though your husband is not the ideal man, you are supposed to help him become that.”  

That’s Myles Munroe’s revelation of the text. It goes well with MP’s more mysterious (philosophical?) take: “Women throw men puzzles to work out, and then she watches him solve them.” 

Notice that Munroe said, ‘her call is to study him, get his vision, get his dream…’ this is where so much goes wrong, in my opinion. Women are tempted to usurp the man’s seat of authority, and he’s persuaded to give it to her. When this happens, I believe it impedes his ability to subdue his environment in the garden and peace is lost.

Furthermore, it is the man who cultivates, while the woman nourishes.

The Man is the Cultivator of Everything in the Garden

The woman’s questions break up the fallow ground to begin the work of cultivation. Now the man also cultivates the woman to bring forth the ideal (potential) he sees in her. Either he has the patience for this process or nothing will ever grow. However, it’s imperative she in-turn submits to this process, or again nothing will grow and both will become frustrated (back to that seat of authority conundrum, I would say). And the woman doesn’t have the answers…that’s why she’s asking him the questions (or should be). 

And isn’t it interesting that it is the man from whom the woman was ‘birthed’ first. I truly love this. From out of one man came all of creation – not from the woman! God produced the mysterious, puzzling creature from the man’s side, who would in turn produce for him, more of him. Ha, men:) ‘More of me please!’

The Man as Father

“The female came from the male, so he automatically is the source of the female. Men didn’t come from women so the head of the woman is the man and Christ is the head of the man. So everybody is ‘Abba’ by whomever sourced them. Abba means sustainer, which means whatever came out of you, you must sustain. A real woman is not looking for a husband or a lover; she’s looking for where she came from. She’s looking for a father.” 

Munroe again. [Greatest Power Of Woman: Myles Munroe On How Female Strength Transforms The World]

And this is where the archetype of the father figure comes into play. This might also be a key to the dream I shared a few weeks ago. It’s going to take me a good while to uncover all the symbolism in that three part narrative story.

Have an enlightening week, all you beautiful cultivators and beneficial adversaries~

An Important Key To Understanding A Woman

This is the funniest thing to hear Myles Munroe deliver this message to the congregation, even the members couldn’t keep from laughing. It’s also dead serious and true. And that makes me laugh:) It doesn’t remove all responsibility from me, the woman, but it certainly doesn’t let the man off the hook either – I like that about God. He doesn’t let the man or the woman off the hook, as much as the man would love to blame only ‘this woman you gave me!’ for all his troubles:)

Life is serious, but sometimes, it’s best to take a step back, take a breath and learn to laugh, even the slightest bit, at ourselves. One of our family sayings is, ‘A family who laughs together, stays together.’ And it works for us.

We’ll live a far less anxious, fearful and offended life if we can let some beads of water run off our backs.

“Do not move an ancient boundary stone or encroach on the fields of the fatherless, for their Redeemer is strong; He will take up their case against you.…” Proverbs 23.10-11

The Man is the Father Figure

Munroe teaches that it is the man who is the father, since the woman came from the man – God formed one man from the dust of the earth and all other men and women came from that one man. God didn’t return to the earth again to create the woman – the woman came out of the man. And since he produced the woman, he is her father in essence. “A father sustains what he produces. If he’s not sustaining what he produces, then he’s not a father.”

So if he isn’t acting towards her as a father would, look out, proverbs tells us that God will take up her case against him. I like that I have a heavenly Protector who doesn’t let me off the hook, but who also defends me against those who would find it convenient for it to be all my fault….Adam…..

We’re all trying to figure this out together and for sure, a little bit of humor goes a long way dear brothers!

Listen to this, it’s just like a man to be completely taken aback by what a woman can do and then act surprised that he’s the reason for all his discomfort. Human behavior, including my own, makes me laugh:

Women Multiply What You Give Them

“Whatever you give a woman, she’ll receive it, multiply it, and give it back to you…..she’ll never give back what you gave to her, she’ll multiply it first. She’s designed that way….if you give her a house she’ll multiply it and give you a home. If you give her groceries she’ll multiply it and give you a meal. If you give her frustration she’ll multiply it and give you……right…….

“So brothers, if you don’t like what your getting, change what you’re giving.

“It’s ridiculous to say to a woman, ‘where did you get this from?’ He’s receiving back – multiplied – what he gave….tell your husband, ‘if you don’t like what I’m giving you, change what you’re giving me.'”

-Myles Munroe, The Azusa Fire Conference, 1994

Link to referenced section of quote: Myles Munroe – The Responsibility of Freedom (Azusa ’94)

I’ll be sharing much more from Munroe in the coming days, God has opened a floodgate of word through this man of God. Prayer and fasting for sure opens doors, opens our hearts and provides keys to receive from God.

Have a wonderful week all, be free, look up at the night sky, take up journeys~

Featured Drawing: Untitled by Ashley Gatewood, ~2014